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March, 2005

There is the pain of changing or the pain of not changing...It's up to you

Written by: Maureen Fannin, LCSW

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What is in this issue?

1.  Introduction:  Spring is here!

2.  What is New! 

3.   Coaching Topic: The Art of Letting Go

4. Quote of the Month

5. Shattering The Glass Ceiling Within- Attracting What You Want

6. Additional Quotes

7. Psychotherapy & Coaching Services

 

1.  Introduction: 

 

      Spring is almost here though you wouldn't know it with all the snow!  Soon the days will grow warmer and the fresh air will soon come breezing in through the screens of open windows.  I can almost feel it now.  I hope you enjoy the newsletter and I will see you next month!

 

 

2.  What is New?

 

      ChangeWorks has started a free monthly practice building support group.  We had our first group on February 21st.  Our second group will be 3/28/05 from 7:30-8:30 EST.  The bridgeline number is (641) 594-7018 code #389685.  Hope to see you there.  I will be hosting more teleclasses in March and April  on my "Shattering The Glass Ceiling Within Series"  Look for details.

 

3. Coaching Topic: The Art of Letting Go

     

Spring is a time of rebirth and new beginnings.  But it is also a time of letting go.  The weather warms and we start moving again shaking off winter's call of hibernation.  Our own desire to clean up and clear out emerges resulting from years of tradition and the memories of our mothers dragging us out of bed on spring filled mornings to begin the yearly ritual of Spring Cleaning.   But sometimes the "cleaning out" isn't always so easy.  All that stuff we have tucked away in drawers, on shelves or in our closets are snap shots of our lives.  We have a certain fondness for our stuff which cultivates feelings of wanting to hold on. There are also things in our lives we just don't want to give up on. There are the clothes that hang is our closet representing the body we want back, or the stacks of books from our college and graduate education bringing us back to a time when life was new and exciting.    Spring cleaning is more then just cleaning dusty rooms and buffing baseboards.  Sometimes it is a matter of letting go and moving forward. 

 

How do we know when it is time to let go?  Many of us wonder why we even need to let go.  Then we peer into our closets and the reasons become painfully clear.  There just isn't enough room for our past, present and definitely not our future.  The clutter and stuffed filled drawers slowly wears on our spirit.  Instead of bringing fourth fond memories, the treasures become clutter bringing fourth feelings of irritation and self defeat.  Letting go is an art which takes creativity and action.  The creativity comes in the form of how we choose to "clear out" out the clutter.  We can make a collage of those old ticket stubs and greeting cards.   Getting in touch with old wants and desires can help spring you into action.   If you don't want to give up the dream of getting into that size six dress, then give yourself a deadline to either get that weight off or donate it to someone who could genuinely use it.  Make this spring a time to stop kidding yourself about eating a healthy diet.   You don't have to throw out you’re your old memories.  Make a date with friends and get those old photos into scrapbooks or photo albums and start enjoying them. 

 

Action Challenge

 

Take a few moments to reflect on the following questions before beginning this year's spring cleaning.

 

  1. Spend some time reflecting on the item or items you are having trouble discarding.   
    • Does it represent something you currently want in your life?
    • Does the item represent a part of your life you have not resolved?
    • Are you holding on to a wish or a dream not yet realized?  If so, why are you not taking steps to realize this dream? 
    • Is this something you really need and will you use it in the next six months?   
    • Have you even thought about this item is the past five years?
    • Does the item represent unresolved grief?  If so, are getting the support and help you need in your grieving process?
    • Does the item represent a part of yourself that you miss?

 2.    Develop a creative plan of action to clear out what you have decided to part with.  Here are some great resources to help.  Good Luck!

 

    • Let Go of Clutter, by Harriet Schechter
    • Making Peace With the Things in Your Life: Why Your Papers, Books, Clothes, and Other Possessions Keep Overwhelming You and What to Do About It by Cindy Glovinsky
    • Organizing from the Inside Out, second edition: The Foolproof System For Organizing Your Home, Your Office and Your Life by Julie Morgenstern
    • www.juliemorgenstern.com
    • www.organizerswebring.com

 

 1 4.  Quote of The Month- "Progress lies not in enhancing what is, but in advancing toward what will be."Kahil Gibran, A Handful of Sand on the Shore.

 

5. Shattering The Glass Ceiling Within- Attract What You Want

 

   

Is it possible to attract success and abundance?  There is a lot of discussion in our popular culture about attracting what you want.  I find it an interesting and uplifting idea.  One thing does seem clear that attracting what you want is directly related to what you focus on.  If you are focusing on negative outcomes and disastrous "what if" thinking, it is unlikely that what you want will come to you.  Even if it did come, it is doubtful that you would see it since reality is often an extension of your thoughts and beliefs.    

 

Being open to success and abundance requires openness to the positive flow of life.  Perception is reality and if you focus on what prevents your success then that is all you will see.  However, changing your perceptions alone is not enough.  Attracting success and abundance requires focusing your actions along with your thoughts.  Spending time complaining or worrying will never bring you the rewards you desire.  Positive action toward your goals will put you in situations where attracting what you want is possible.  The key phrase is positive action.  If you want to overcome underearning or take your career to the next level, positive action is what will help you meet your goals.

 

One of the biggest mysteries of the human condition is that most of us know what we need to do; we just don't do it.  Sometimes the glass ceiling within is as thick as lead keeping your from seeing the light of your own potential and the possibilities that you can attract.  Shattering the Glass Ceiling Within requires a shift in perception, focus and an increase in positive action.  Begin this process and you will see powerful changes in your life. 

 

Action Challenge

 

1.  Conduct your own experiment.  Pick one aspect of your life that you feel is not working right for you.  Spend the next month focusing on what you want to occur.  Visualize yourself succeeding and take at least three specific positive actions toward turning this around.  At the end of the month, reflect on your current perception of the situation.  Did it improve?  What came into your life during this month of intense focus and action?

 

Here are some good resources to assist you in your experiment.

 

Who Moved My Cheese? by Spencer Johnson

The Power of Intention by Wayne W. Dyer

The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle

 

 6. Additional Quotes: " Our doubts are traitors, and make us lose the good we might win by fearing to attempt" William Shakespear

 

7.  Psychotherapy & Life Coaching Services

 

I provide individual, couples and family therapy in my psychotherapy practice.  I am currently accepting clients in my Manassas office.  Please contact me at 703-626-0381.

 

I also provide individual and group coaching and conduct seminars and workshops.  Please contact me at ChangeWorks@braemarnet.com or visit my website at www.ChangeWrks.net.  I am also accepting referrals for coaching.

 

Good Luck and have a great month!  See you next time!

 

Maureen Fannin, LCSW

 


ChangeWorks Psychotherapy & Life Coaching Services 9315 Center Street Suite 204 Manassas, VA. 20110 Phone: (703)626-0381 E-Mail Changeworks@braemarnet.com


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