Welcome to the Newsletter for ChangeWorks Life Coaching
December, 2004- Happy Holidays!
There is the pain of changing or the pain of not changing...It's up to
Written by: Maureen Fannin, LCSW
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What is in this issue?
Introduction: Happy Holidays!
What is New! I am adding some new sections to my newsletter.
3. Helpful Hints for
4. Coaching Topics
Clip Board Moments
of the Month
Psychotherapy & Life Coaching Services
Introduction: I want to wish everyone a happy holiday
season. I hope that you are all planning to spend this holiday season doing
what means the most to you. The coaching topic of the month is design to
provide light and interesting reading since this month can be very stressful and hectic. I am adding some new sections to my newsletter, which will start in January. There are also some helpful hints to survive the stress of the season. Please take care this holiday season and best wishes to you and your families.
2. What is
Starting in January 1, 2005 I will be adding a new section to
my newsletter under the heading "Shattering the Glass Ceiling Within". This
section will address the needs of women by empowering them to take emotional and financial control over their lives. As always, I welcome your comments.
I have also hired a web designer to work on my website. Her name is Annette Valencourt and her company is Girl Geek Web Designs. We have discussed some great ideas for the site including a bulletin board. I am hoping to have it completed by the beginning of January. I am planning to give my Shattering the Glass Ceiling workshop
towards the end of January. This one will be live (not a teleclass) in Vienna,
Virginia. I will send out a special section of the newsletter with
3. Helpful Hints to Relieve Stress for the Holidays
· Remember to get your Z's
during this holiday season. We are more vulnerable to stress and illness when
we are not well rested.
· It is important to check
our perfectionistic tendencies during the holiday season. They will only leave you feeling drained and depleted.
· Take time for fun this
holiday season. Laughing and having fun is the best stress
· Remember you do not have
to do everything for everybody. Take time for yourself and your own
4. Coaching Topic- I went to a play therapy workshop recently
entitled Play Therapy and Beyond with Paul R. White, LCSW. You
can visit him on the web at www.PlaytherapyCLAY.com. It was a wonderful
workshop exploring the use of clay during therapeutic play with children.
One of my goals for the New Year will be spending time practicing my new skills building dinosaurs, trains, planes
and automobiles which all have therapeutic meaning.
The presenter also introduced an
interesting idea. He keeps a clipboard near his desk during his play therapy
sessions, which allows him to capture what he referred to as “Clip Board Moments”. The presenter uses the clip board to capture those moments during play therapy
sessions when a child says something profound or an insight comes to mind that might help other clients Simply relying on memory has not proven effective. The clipboard allows him to make a note at that moment because, if not captured,
they may be lost forever.
What are Clipboard Moments
you ask? I imagine we all have experienced them. They are those flashes of brilliance that go through the mind providing a
connection, insight or possibility. A moment is often the gift of
potential. I think Oprah Winfrey calls them “aha” moments. All of us may relate to that sudden glimmer of insight that brings clarity to a
difficult problem or an idea for the great American novel.
I would imagine that
most of the world’s progress has come from clipboard moments. How may we
develop ways of capturing our own Clipboard Moments?
First, we must learn to pay attention to our inner voice when it is trying to communicate with us. However, there are many obstacles to hearing our own voice. For example, our negative self-talk may convince us that the insights or
potential that we see is somehow invalid or beyond reach. Here are some
examples of negative self-talk. See if they sound familiar. “ You can’t go
back to school you're too old.” "It’s too late to change that now.” “No one
would ever want to read a book about that.” The inner critic is a powerful
force and if left unchecked may direct your life in unhealthy ways.
What if Albert
Einstein had said “What a ridiculous theory? No one would ever accept
that.” What would science look like today? Certain individuals learn to trust themselves enough to realize what is worth
exploring. I think our body gives us certain clues to what it worth
pursuing. We may feel a chill or relief from anxiety. The key lies in paying attention to these signs and not allowing the
environment to take you away from yourself.
- Begin keeping a daily
journal to record your thoughts.
- If something occurs to
you that bring feelings of hope and excitement, pay attention to it.
- If you have a persistent
idea, take time to explore the possibilities.
- Take note of your inner
critic. How is it holding you back?
4. Quote of the Month- Ideas are the Root of Creation- Ernest Dimnet
Psychotherapy & Life Coaching Services:
I provide individual, couples and family therapy in my psychotherapy
practice. I am currently accepting clients in my Manassas office. Please contact me at 703-626-0381.
I also provide individual and group coaching and conduct seminars and
workshops. Please contact me at ChangeWorks@braemarnet.com or visit my website at www.ChangeWrks.net. I am also accepting referrals for coaching.
Good Luck and have
a great month! See you next time!